Most people would agree that better communication about sex helps better sex.

And yet, a lot of people are understandably nervous about ‘Dirty Talk’.

You’ve probably had moments where you felt turned on…but didn’t quite know how to say it out loud. And it’s totally natural if part of you worries you’ll say the wrong thing.

Dirty talk isn’t about being confident or sounding sexy, it’s about being present enough to say what you actually desire.

When you and your partner communicate during sex, you reduce confusion and guessing, maintain connection, and improve pleasure for both of you.

Research backs this up, sexual communication is one of the strongest predictors of sexual satisfaction.

It can be hard to know what to say, but you don’t need to improvise.

At Melba, we have a whole team of sexperts working on crafting exactly the right words for our audio guided experiences. So we know it takes work.  That's why we've curated 101 things you could say in the bedroom.

We challenge you to try one, or a few tonight.

Even better, read this with your partner so you can agree on what sounds hot and what might be off limits.

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101 Dirty Talk Phrases
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Soft and romantic

• I love how you touch me
• You feel so good
• I want you closer
• Kiss me everywhere
• You're so beautiful/handsome/sexy when you're turned on
• I love the way you look at me
• Take your time with me
• I want to feel your skin/body/warmth against mine
• Tell me what you're feeling
• I love your hands/mouth/body on me
• Keep touching me like that
• I need to feel you
• I could do this forever
• You turn me on so much
• I feel so safe/connected/alive with you

Play with anticipation

• I've been thinking about you all day
• I couldn't concentrate at work today
• I've been wet/hard thinking about this
• I can't stop fantasizing about your mouth/hands/body
• I've been wanting to enjoy you all day
• You make me so wet/hard/turned on
• I love watching you undress
• You make me ache for you
• Undress me slowly/quickly
• I want to see all of you

Express your desires

• I need more of you
• I want to taste you
• I'm so turned on right now
• Tell me your fantasies
• I want to know what turns you on
• I want you so damn much right now
• I need your mouth/tongue/fingers on me
• I need you inside me now
• I want to feel every inch of you
• I want to feel you overwhelm me

Give direction

• Touch yourself for me
• Don't stop doing that
• Show me what you like
• Touch my breasts/ass/thighs/cock
• Kiss my neck/chest/stomach/thighs
• Tell me what feels good
• Fuck me slowly/shallow
• Lick my clit/cock/pussy/balls/feet
• Suck my cock/nipples/clit
• Stroke my cock/clit faster/slower
• Put your fingers/cock/tongue deeper
• Pull my hair while you fuck me
• Grab my hips/ass/thighs
• Bite my neck/shoulder/thigh/lip
• Hold me down and eat me
• Pin my hands/wrists down
• Spank my ass
• Finger me faster/slower/like this
• Be rough/gentle with me
• Grip my hair/hips/back while you take me
• Don't be gentle with me

Praise and worship

• You're making me feel incredible
• Your touch drives me crazy
• Your skin looks/tastes/smells/feels incredible
• I love the way you move
• I love how your body responds to me
• You taste so fucking good
• I love the way your cock/pussy/body feels
• Your cock/pussy/ass is perfect
• I love the sounds/moans/noises you make
• I love how wet/hard/ready you are
• You're such a good boy/girl
• You're my king/queen
• You're a fucking god/goddess
• I want to worship your cock/pussy/body
• You fuck me so good/well/perfectly

Beg and plead

• Please don't stop
• Please, please, please
• I'm going to beg for it
• Make me beg for it

Claim and own

• I'm yours to enjoy
• Use me however you want
• You're mine
• I'm so lucky you're mine
• Only I get to see you like this
• No one knows how dirty/wild/filthy you really are
• No one else gets to have you like this
• I want you to leave marks on me
• Make me yours
• I belong to you
• You belong to me
• I love feeling your weight on me
• I am going to make you mine

State your intentions

• Tell me how wet/hard/horny I make you
• I am going to watch you touch yourself
• I want to watch you cum
• I'm going to make you cum so hard
• I'm going to ride you until you cum
• Make me cum with your mouth/fingers/cock

Be explicit

• Fuck me like you mean it
• I want your cock/fingers/tongue inside me
• Fuck my mouth/pussy/ass
• I want to taste your cock/pussy/hole
• I want to smell your cum
• I want you to cum on my cock/face/tits/ass/stomach
• Fill me up with your squirt/juices/cum/tongue

Three Easy Categories

If a whole list feels too much, just try doing these

Say what you're feeling: Just describe what's happening in your body. "That feels amazing." "I'm so turned on right now." Just the facts is plenty hot.

Say what you're about to do: "Want me to keep going you until you cum?" "I’d like to move you slower so you every movement, yes?" This can be a sexy way to build tension with consent.

Say what you want them to do to you: "Pull my hair like this." "I need your tounge right here, right now." Bonus points for being specific.

Whether you choose to plan ahead or freestyle, try to focus on communicating instead of ‘doing dirty talk’.

Your actual voice, saying words you truly mean, will be hotter than any porn impersonation.

Although, if it does feel a bit silly, it's fine to laugh. Sex doesn't have to be serious to be good!

To sum up, dirty talk about being present enough to notice what you want and brave enough to say it out loud.

Either use our list of 101 phrases or simply practice saying out loud: what you feel, what you want to do or want them to do to you.

Your voice is a turn-on. Time to use it.

P.S. Want us to do all the talking? All you have to do is to follow the link (on your phone) to open the app and to hear a sexy voice give explicit instructions. Go ahead, play Mystery Man for us, it's so hot when you do what we tell you.